I am not going to lie about this one.
It’s different for every woman and every birth. (And yes, that even means different from your mother – who may have told you your birth with be long because all of her births were long – nope, not true!)
- Some women will tell you in excruciating detail how it hurt like hell and they wanted to die.
- While others will say, “yes it hurt, but it was worth it.”
- Some may explain to you that “birth isn’t too bad.”
- Then there’s a group of women who will tell you how they actually were pretty comfortable and perhaps even enjoyed their birth! … that’s me
My first natural birth did NOT hurt. In fact it was BLISSFUL. Every time I think of that day it fills me with joy and amazement of what our brains and bodies are capable of.
Does that mean I didn’t feel anything? NO, it means I felt sensations that were strange and wonderful, but I was not in pain.
My second natural birth hurt a bit, but not the kind of pain you might think. Imagine mild period pain. Like the type of pain where you want a hot water bottle on your tummy or maybe some panadol/advil. I think that’s pretty bearable and so I just didn’t bother with any medication.
I also know WHY I felt more uncomfortable in my second birth which I explain in more detail in my book: “How To LOVE Your Labour.”
Did I have comfortable births because I have a very high pain threshold? No way! … I’m a big wuss and as a child would have a band-aid on everything.
So, just HOW do you have a comfortable and natural birth?
Most women I know who have had a comfortable and natural birth all had similarities in their preparation and support.
For many of these women, instead of asking each and every woman “Does Natural Birth Hurt Really Bad?” to get different stories and opinions, they focused on seeking out methods, support and ways to achieve and safe and natural birth for their baby.
They selected positive/natural birthing classes – CRUCIAL ELEMENT … (see the top of this website for methods such as Hypnobirthing, Calm birth, Gentle birth, the Bradley Method, Birth Boot Camp etc.)
They also read stories and watched videos of women who have already experienced comfortable births.
In fact, this strategy is very simple and you can apply it anywhere in your life.
Basically the premise is “If you want to achieve a goal. Find someone who’s done it already and copy what they do!”
It’s the same in birth. Find someone who’s had a comfortable birth already and do the type of preparation they did.
I have had two amazing natural births and here’s the basics of what I did:
- I found a positive birthing course I liked and learned crucial techniques that helped me tap into natural hormones that acted as my “natural epidural.”
- I asked my birth support people to come to classes too (my husband & my mum).
- I booked into a hospital with a midwife program who were fairly “pro-natural birth.”
- I practiced, practiced, practiced my breathing & visualisation exercises.
- I did some exercises several times a week (yoga, swimming and walking).
- I refused to read and listen to negative birth stories … only focusing on positive experiences.
I know it sounds simple, but really that’s it.
Can I guarantee you’ll have a comfortable or even pain free birth?
Nope! Sorry no can. Because the outcome relies on YOU.
The reason it doesn’t work out as planned sometimes is because we are trained by media and society to think about birth in a negative way.
Then the actions of certain people around us (who don’t really understand natural birth) can trigger physiological responses in our brains and bodies.
This fires off other hormones that actually hinder the natural birthing process making it more likely for us to need medical assistance.
It’s sad because this happens a lot and which is why many women find childbirth so uncomfortable.
BUT … the great thing is … now you are equipped with this information, you have the power to influence your own experience.
You CAN have a safe, comfortable and natural birth.
Go and take action now.
- Enrol in a positive natural childbirth course
- Practice, practice, practice
- Get supportive people around you
You and your baby are worth it!
Today’s question: What have you used or what do you plan on using to help make your birth more comfortable … Leave your comment below.